Many people that are diagnosed with cancer have feelings of guilt.  

• Guilt that they may be a burden to others
• Guilt that they cannot do the things that they are used to doing
• Guilt that you may envy those who are healthy
• Guilt over the fact that they are a cancer survivor, while others may have not been as blessed and may have lost the fight

Your friends and family may experience guilt also 

• They are healthy, while you are sick
• Can't help as much as they would like at times
• They may experience increased stress and impatience with the situation

Whatever feelings you may have, know that it is normal.  What you do with those feelings makes all the difference in the world. Counseling and support groups are helpful for all.  One thing that has helped our family is starting a Caring Bridge page during treatment.  It allowed us to express our feelings and let friends and family in on what was going on with us.  It was very healing for all of us. 

Here is an excerpt from our page:

Jim is 30 hours post chemo and feels puny!  He is exhausted, but PTL his nausea is not too bad and he is able to eat which is blessing 1 today.  We were able to go to church and worship, which is our 2nd blessing for today.  Our 3rd blessing is that we had a group of 5 men over from our church yesterday and they laid our tile floor in the kitchen and laundry room.  It looks absolutely amazing!  This was a project that Jim and I were going to accomplish before Paige's graduation and they made it happen!  We are so grateful to these men and their families for being willing to help us out in this way!  They got there at 9:00 in the morning  and did not leave until after midnight!  We are so blessed with such faithful friends.  Jim and I are praying for God to bless these wonderful families! I have been on my knees praying for Jim as he works through this second chemo treatment.  I know that he doesn't feel good but he is trying so hard to be "normal".  It is hard for me to watch him go through this!  I wish I could carry it for him!! He is the BEST thing that has ever happened to me so I continue to encourage and love on Him with everything I have.  My favorite time of day is at night when I am lying next to him and he is sleeping soundly.  I thank God for the peace that He has granted us during this difficult time. The kids continue to be a great source of encouragement to both Jim and I.  They are continually asking what they can do.  Jim and I are so blessed with such wonderful children!  I pray everyday that they know God intimately, and that I pick up on subtle clues that they are struggling with the stress that we have.  I want to minister to them as I minister and take care of Jim as well. I am continually encouraged by your posts.  What a blessing this has been to all of us.  God is good even in the midst of the storm.  Remember to spend time with Him each day. Amy